Forgiveness and freeing your heart from emotional debt is easier said then done. No one likes to feel hurt by another person. Anger and resentment eat away at your sense of peacefulness.
Staying focused on their behavior, the situation, their decisions, is easy. Maintaining your focus on someone else’s behavior is also a habit of protecting your own tender heart from a sense of vulnerability.
Most people have been hurt by another’s actions or words.
- A friend gave strong political opinions different then yours and condemed or judged you in the process.
- A parent, friend, colleague or spouse criticized you
- Someone is defending their own actions by pointing out that you also did something wrong.
- A friend, co-worker, relative lashes out at you.
- You feel you have been treated unfairly.
“When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge — or embrace forgiveness and move forward.” Mayo Clinic Staff
Focusing on Forgiveness is an approach that brings openness and connection rather then separation.
Ironically, even the focus of Forgiving Another often leaves you and your heart out of the equation. Signs of Forgiveness with Self and with another – heart opening, mercy, benevolance, peace, harmony, strength and positive sense of empowerment and freedom – whether the other person changes their behavior or not.
Self-forgiveness is one of the greatest acts of Self-Acceptance and Self-Love.
Here’s a few of the health benefits of forgiveness according to the Mayo Clinic:
- Less anxiety and stress
- Decreasing hostility
- Lower Blood Pressure
- Stronger Immune System
- Less negative emotions of anger, bitterness, resentment
- Healtheir relationships
- Greater psychological and spiritual well-being
Forgiveness isn’t just about letting someone else, or yourself off the ‘hook,’ or condoning behavior. It is not about self-sacrifice, or lack or responsibility.
FOR-Giving is at the root of Forgiveness. Being responsive to yourself, and your own heart is key.
“The self-forgiveness formula most conducive to constructive change seems to involve an acknowledgement of both positive and negative aspects of the self.”
~ Psychology Today
I’ve seen with hundreds of clients and myself the links between not forgiving yourself and maintaining decades old emotional debt that has nothing to do with the person in the picture at the moment.
If you do not find forgiveness for yourself, you are the one who pays most dearly, even though your minds tell you it is the other who must ‘pay.’
Forigveness offers freedom from feeling hurt, angry, betrayed, resentful where you wanted to feel heard, respected, loved. In the letting go, there is room for love, compassion, caring and kindness, prosperity.
Settling old emotional debt is freeing to your heart, mind and health.
About Sandy Rakowitz:
Sandy Rakowitz coaches courageous breakthroughs to living a more empowered, insightful, prosperous life.
Her expertise has been honed with over 28 + years in private practice ranging from holistic modalities, money empowerment, and business breakthroughs for healing. She works with animal lovers, wellness & healing experts and leaders.
Sandy teaches, coaches and guides people 1:1 privately and with groups via telephone, Skype with people and animals worldwide, and in person.
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