Letting Go of Things

There is an Art to Letting go of ‘Things’ after a loved one dies.

Horsie people & you as heart connectors will understand this one….
…this is a Big Deal….

…The other day I let my saddle go.

Picture: Ibis with me on board with our lovely, beloved Dressage Saddle.
We were in one of our earliest lessons with Centered Riding Founder Sally Swift, 1989.

It’s been over a year.   And, my heart still grieves for my horse Ibis who passed away at age 37.

I got this saddle when Ibis was 7,
over 32 years ago. 

Three decades together, Ibis, me, and that saddle.

The saddle was purchased especially for for him. Specifically fit just for his back and his shape.
And, my Grandma helped me purchase it.
So there is that connection with my grandmother as well.

I’d tried out a dozen saddles on Ibis before finding The One that fit so he could be comfortable and move freely.

There was the time and heart investment of deep caring for his comfort – in even in finding that saddle!

That’s us, riding in 1989.  Ibis, me, and the saddle.  In Vermont.

Having this comfy fitting saddle was a major blessing as he became happier under saddle….
…for the first time.
That was Relief for us both. 

During those years back in the late 1980’s I was also training other horses.

Our lovely saddle fit many horses, and helped so many move unencumbered by not pinching on their shoulders. 

My identity was so connected into that saddle,
with Ibis, being a Centered Riding Instructor, TTouch Practitioner, Horse Trainer…
…This was the essence of who I was for decades. 

The truth is, I’m no longer training horses professionally. 
I haven’t ridden in that Dressage saddle for years. 
And, I know, the saddle isn’t Me or my Essence. 

It represented me for a long time,
for much of my adulthood. 

But the saddle ain’t me.
It was time to let it go.
Another strand of my connection with Ibis through ‘things.’

‘Things’ take up space in our psyche & heart.
But the things are just objects that we place meaning onto. 

And so I was able to let the saddle go…
…to give to some other horse and rider team to use,
enjoy & so they can be a better team together. 

… I Packed up my beloved saddle, and off it went via UPS.
I thought all was Ok.

And then,
I got in my car.
And the water works turned on.
I sobbed. 

The velocity of the tears surprised me. 
But not really. 

..it’s truly amazing how the heart and our connections work, isn’t it?
How is it that something so simple as letting a saddle go,
can open a valve that had been shut. 

A valve I didn’t know had been shut. 

I let go. 

I Surrender. 
I am Releasing the Old.

Outdated things that no longer serve where I am or where I am going.
Things that served their purpose beautifully.

With honor, and appreciations,
I allow what is working its way through me
to have room
and permission.

YES.
Saying Yes, to what is,
rather than what has been
is So powerful.

Time to open those valves for new territory.
New openings. New ways. 

As I am writing this, Ibis chimes in and says to me,
and to us all- 

“Now it is time to ride the tides of life unencumbered by old attachments.
Let go of the ways in which your attachments have saddled you.

These types of attachments serve to ‘pinch’ your shoulders,
your wings,
and your heart,
keeping the valves turned down,
or off.

Inhibiting
the deep flow of Love and Connection through Your Heart
and with Source,
rather than to ‘Things’ from the Past.”

He continues to say to you,
“If you would like help moving through things which ‘pinch’
your heart, wings and voice from flying free,
and living your creative dreams,
then set up a time to speak with Sandy.

She knows how to walk you through
letting go.”

With Love and Letting Go Appreciations,
 
P.S.  This picture was taken recently with a lovely mare I have the privilege of riding…
Someone else’s horse, and with someone else’s saddle.
= New Life.