“Change Your Mind, Change Your Animal” says Mandy Pretty, TTouch Instructor.
The words you use convey important intentions.Â Â This is true even if you think you mean something in jest, or speakÂ from habit without thinking much about what we are saying or describing.Â
Have you ever used a label to describe behaviorÂ for one of your animals?Â “He’s naughty.” “She is pig headed.” Â âHe is dominant.âÂ
The label becomesÂ how we think of this animal. This word, orÂ phrase becomes the picture we hold in our minds when talk about them.Â We mix personality and contextÂ regarding behaviors when we use such labels. Â
We see behavior through the descriptive lens of this behavior asÂ permanent, static and also often believe this particular behaviorÂ is their core personality.Â Is this fair?Â Is this the deeper truth aboutÂ your animal?
Letâs say you label your best friendâs overall personality as âhot headedâ based on one context of their reaction to rush hour traffic.Â Or, you describe their self-control around chocolate after a particularlyÂ stressful day. Â Is it fair to say this is who they are as a person?
Behavior is separate from core personality.
Changing the words we use to describe your animals can profoundly influenceÂ the way you see them.Â Changing your the way you think, by changingÂ the words you use, changes the messages you give your mind.Â Â This influences how YOU react to THEIR behaviors.Â This allows you to diffuse and redirect it, and for YOUÂ to behave differently.
Linda Tellington-Jones, founder of Tellington TTouch, Â
sees “the perfection” in every being she meets. Â Her deep committment and knowing in this has an amazingÂ impact on her success in her profoundly positive influences with behavior.Â
Linda’s ability, and willingness, to see the best in everyone has certainlyÂ influenced meÂ over the last decades of my working with her. Â
Approaching your animal and their habitual behavior by changingÂ your habitual thoughts about them gives you the space, andÂ ability to act rather then react.Â This creates an optimal environmentÂ for change, and success.
The more you open, become willing and listen deeply, the animalsÂ will always show you âThe Way.âÂ Let their âbadâ behavior inspire you to turn things around inside your own mind, to be anÂ even more positive influence in your life, with them,Â and in the world. Â The ripple effect of yourÂ thoughts can have a far reach.Â
Change Your Mind, Change Behavior,Â Change Your Animal, Change Your World.
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May the Infinite Love you know throughÂ
your animals be your guiding light,
Kim Kowalski says
This is a beautiful thought provoking article. I have a reactive dog that I often “introduce” as
unfriendly to discourage people from interacting with him. I see how by thinking of his behavior as carved in stone there is no room for change. I certainly would not link my sons ADD diagnosis to interactions with anyone. I will be making an effort to “see the perfection” and the road toward it from now on.
Sandy Rakowitz says
Hi Kim, I am so glad to hear your thoughtful reflections. It is really lovely to hear the connections you made inside yourself relating with your dog and son from reading the article. It made my heart sing!
I know when I first began changing how I spoke about my horse, and other animals, the changes were remarkable. They continue to help us learn so much in so many ways!
We’d love to hear how this shift in how you are talking about your dog with others is going. What alternatives are you finding in ways to speak about him, and perhaps even with him?